God and Relationships
by Cor Bruins
£5.99 (UK); $10.85 (USA) - available from STP or online bookshops.
- ISBN-10: 0-901860-36-0
- ISBN-13: 978-0-901860-36-1
- Price: £5.99 (UK); $10.85 (USA)
- Binding: Paperback
- Publication date: 1 August 2006
- Author: Cor Bruins
- Edition: First
- Height: 216mm
- Width: 140mm
- Spine width: 6.579mm
- Weight: 148.322g
- Pages: 108 pages
- BIC Subject heading: HRBV
- Place of publication: Morpeth, England
- Publisher: Scripture Truth
- Distributor: Lightning Source
This book covers many aspects of our relationships with God and one another. It is primarily intended for young Christians who may be entering on a relationship, or who are newly-weds, or who have a young family. Consequently it deals with topics and issues, some of them quite sensitive, which are likely to be faced by these groups.
Some years ago Cor Bruins was invited to lead a young married couples' weekend. It was a weekend that will be remembered for Cor's helpful and warm ministry of God's Word on the subject of family life. It was enriched by Cor's own marriage to his wife, Audrey, and their experiences of bringing up a family of eight children. They did this whilst engaged in many years of missionary service in Egypt and Lebanon, followed by a teaching ministry in Europe which continues to this day.
This book crystallises Cor's thoughts on the many aspects of our relationship with God and one another. It explores the development of loving and strong relationships leading to marriage. By reference to the Bible it deals with the practicalities of married life and confronts many of the challenges modern Western society poses to the Christian's position in regard to relationships, sexual attitudes, divorce, the use of money, mutual welfare and the care of children.
What Cor writes will certainly encourage young people to think carefully about preparing for a lifelong relationship. It will ensure those of us who have been married for many years do not take our relationships for granted. And it will make us all think and pray more carefully about our responsibility, as God's children, to witness to the value of the pattern of life He introduced for our happiness and the well-being of society.
"So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them" (Genesis 1:27 [NIV]).
Other Books by Cor Bruins are available from STP.
Table of Contents
Chapter 1: God's Master-plan for Man
Chapter 2: Marriage in Today's Perverted World
Chapter 3: "The Way of a Man with a Maiden"
Chapter 4: More Than Friendship?
Chapter 5: Understanding the Lord's Will
Chapter 6: Engagement
Chapter 7: Marriage
Chapter 8: The Purpose of Sex
Chapter 9: Guidelines for Happiness in Home and Assembly
Chapter 10: The Marriage Relationship
Chapter 11: Family Planning
Chapter 12: How to Bring Up Children in a Godly Way
Chapter 13: Facing Facts - Conflicts in the Family
Chapter 14: Discipline and Nurture
Chapter 15: Riding the Storms of Life
Chapter 16: Divorce and Remarriage
Chapter 17: Sex Education
Chapter 18: Single and Happy
Appendix: Questions for Discussion
Cor Bruins (1930-2015) served the Lord in a school in Upper Egypt from 1955 to 1965, before moving to Lebanon. He worked in the various churches there until 1975, when he and his family were forced to leave due to the civil war.
Cor lived in England after that, spending his time preparing and giving teaching ministry in Europe, the Middle East and the USA. He now describes himself as a semi-retired Christian teacher.
Cor has written several books over the past twenty-five years and has also written a variety of articles on Christian topics. He has also regularly broadcast Bible talks for the Truth For Today programme on London's Premier Radio.
He was married to Audrey for over fifty years, and they have eight children.
This book is primarily intended for young Christians who may be entering upon a relationship, or who are newly-weds, or who have a young family. Consequently it deals with topics and issues, some of them quite sensitive, which are likely to be faced by these groups.
An Extract from the First Chapter
Chapter 1: God's Master-plan for Man
"The Lord God said: 'It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.'" (Genesis 2:18 [NIV])
Despite the many negative aspects that we encounter in marriage situations today, young people long for a partner with whom they can share their life. There is nothing wrong with that longing; on the contrary, there is something wrong with you if it is not there, because God has put it in every man and woman He has created. He did not create us to be all on our own, but he created us to be together, man and woman, husband and wife, to make up the one man that God had in mind. This is a wonderful thing. Marriage is on this side of the glory; in the earthly realm it is the greatest blessing that we can have. I have experienced this blessing for 51 years. I have one of the wisest wives in the whole world. She has only one weakness - that she married me, but I have been forgiven for that ever since.
The family was constituted to be the human copy of the divine relationships of love that exist between the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit. God's plan was to pattern the intimate human relationship on the heavenly relationship and thus provide for man a little bit of heaven on earth.
"If a man has recently married, he must not be sent to war or have any other duty laid upon him. For one year he is to be free to stay at home and bring happiness to the wife he has married." (Deuteronomy 24:5 [NIV])
The divine ideal therefore was oneness.
One husband for one wife is also the recipe for parenthood. The home and the family, including the family of God, are under terrific pressure today. Millions of our homes and families are ending in the divorce courts. Other millions of homes are holding together in misery and unhappiness. Instability and insecurity secretly plague many of our best homes. The devil seeks to enter and destroy the home even though the home is 'Christian'. Children are the helpless victims of this sorry picture. The real enduring strength of a nation is largely determined by the stability of the family life of its citizens. No nation can long be secure if the texture of its family life remains inferior. The breakdown of the home was supposed to have been one of the causes of the fall of the Roman Empire. The instability of its homes can well be designated as a national emergency by any nation hoping to remain great.
What is true of the human family is also true of the family of God, the church universal as manifested in the local assembly. The spiritual state of the Christian assembly, the Church, is largely determined by the spiritual state in the families of its members. An unhappy member of a family cannot be an effective servant in the local assembly. Spiritual lethargy in the home results in spiritual lethargy in the local assembly. An unhappy home fosters weakness in the local assembly. Broken homes produce broken power in the local assembly.
Therefore the local assembly must concern itself diligently with the happiness and stability of the homes of the people who compose the local assembly. Get the home right and the local assembly will be right. Get the home right and the nation will be right. If we can save the family, we can save its members. Therefore, the spiritual leaders have an unparalleled responsibility to minister to the needs of the family. Because no other force has been able to effectively minister to the needs of troubled homes, the local assembly has a tremendous opportunity to save the homes of people who have no other place to turn to for effective help!